Category: Questions Coaches Hear

The Power of a Good Coaching Question

DrRoyKing_6One of the ministries God has assigned to me for this chapter of my life is to coach congregational and non-profit ministry leaders.  After a recent appointment I was reflecting on what I had contributed.  I recalled what  the person had validated as being very helpful.  I wrote in my journal to remind me to work at getting better at offering effective coaching, “Be very careful to translate inspired intention into concrete action.”

It is so easy to get excited and  enjoying being flush with new thoughts and energy that only spin in one’s head or verbally spew out to those around us but fails to answer the questions, “So what are the next 2 to 3 steps that you need to take?”  and “When will you begin these actions?”

Change only occurs as we act on our intentions.  Faith in the power of God’s Spirit requires we risk; step out.

What has God made clear and stirred up desire to see occur?  What is you next action needed?  WHEN will you begin?

What is the MOST important tool a Life Giving Leader will use?

Praying gives sense, brings wisdom, and broadens and strengthens the mind.  The prayer closet is a perfeDrRoyKing_6ct school teacher and schoolhouse for the preacher.  Thought is not only brightened and clarified in prayer, but thought is born in prayer.  E.M. Bounds

We are too busy to pray and so we are too busy to have power.  We have a great deal of activity, but we accomplish little; many services but few conversions; much machinery but few results.  R.A. Torrey

If you are asked, as an outside consultant, to examine any kingdom enterprise, you can determine the effectiveness by listening to how the leaders are praying.  Our prayers expose what we really believe and are a great predictor of where the time, money, and energy of the leadership is going.

What we pray about gets our attention!

What we pray about sets our priorities!

What we pray about is what we do!

A leader who wants a group to behave differently should begin with helping them pray differently.  Prayer is not all we do, but if we are not praying, all we do will make little difference.

Prayer is the most important tool God has provided to lead the leader and to influence the people.

From Chapter One (page 27) LIFE GIVING LEADERSHIP, 2016.

 

How Did Jesus Define Leadership?

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After reading every passage where Jesus speaks about leadership I crafted this definition to attempt to capture his heart.

LIFE-GIVING LEADERSHIP IS RESPECTFUL INFLUENCE UNCONDITIONALLY IMPARTING BLESSING AND OFFERING DIRECTION.

Jesus would challenge us with  kingdom leadership being upside down from the world’s way of  defining leadership.

Start on page 15 in LIFE GIVING LEADERSHIP  and  read how each word in this definition challenges our cultural (inherited from the world) views of leadership.

How do You Detect Good Theology?

Good theology will always be

REDEMPTIVE — Christ centered — filled with faith and hope; anchored in Christ’s atoning death, the certainty of His life giving resurrection and confidence in our coming King.

AND

RELATIONAL–Love and Grace generously given just as we receive in abundance every moment of every day from Christ’s hand by His Spirit.

For More see: LIFE GIVING LEADERSHIP (purchase from Amazon in paperback or Kindle)

What is THE goal of life?

The goal of life is to receive and give the LIFE that God offers in Christ….

“JOY IS THE SERIOUS BUSINESS OF HEAVEN.” C. S. Lewis

I am declaring an END to 

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Life-Robbing

Life-Stealing

Life-Draining

Life-Wounding Leadership.

I am writing to share Good news.  God wants you to be receiving LIFE.

There is too much life taking leadership when God’s will is that leadership be life giving to the leader and followers.

From Preface of LIFE GIVING LEADERSHIP published 2016

Sorting Out A Mess!

It has been my honor to walk alongside leaders of churches and ministry organizations for over 30 years.

Sometime the places where these leaders are living is growing quickly and are full of messes like having your granddaughters come through your home like a storm.

Sometimes the place is struggling with plateau or decline and the messes are more like a neighbor’s dog who makes all of their potty dumps right where you walk.

I wanted to write a short book to assist leaders in gaining a clear perspective on how to approach and deal with the messes!

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DISCIPLESHIP AS JESUS DID IT

 

A Summary Outline of THE MASTER PLAN OF EVANGELISM, Robert E. Coleman reprinted over 63 times since its publication in 1963.

I first read Coleman’s book in 1973 during my college days at East Tennessee State University.  I was involved in CRU (formerly Campus Crusade for Christ).  I wrote this summary after going through the book in an action group; our small discipleship groups on campus.  It stayed in my journal and has been like a North Star to orient me through over 40 years in parachurch and congregational service.  His book is still in print.  And a version with a small group study guide in the back is also still accessible.  Let’s make sure our main thing is Jesus’ main thing!  Roy King June 26, 2015

Steps to building and sending people to the world:

1 SELECTION

Luke 6:13- People were Christ’s method.

No evidence of haste just determination.

No big impact at this time, just investing in people willing to learn.

Jesus does not neglect the masses, but realizes that victory will never be won by the multitudes.

2 ASSOCIATION

Matt. 28:20 He was with his disciples.

He let them follow him, and this was his initial requirement.

Lk. 8:10 Knowledge was gained by association before being understood by explanation.

IT TAKES TIME.

Discipleship involves the sacrifice of personal indulgence.

3 CONSECRATION

Matt. 11:29- He required obedience.

Lk, 16:13 -The surrender of one’s whole life to the master in absolute submission to His sovereignty was required.

Mt.27:3-10; Acts 1:18, 19 Few would pay the price.

Obedience to Christ was the means by which those in his company learned more truth.

Obedience was modeled by Jesus as he lived in absolute obedience to the Father’s will. Jn.5:30, 6:38.

4   IMPARTATION

Jn.20:22 He gave himself away.

  1. He gave His peace Jn.16:33, Matt,11:28
  2. He gave His joy. Jn.15-11,17:13
  3. He gave the keys to the kingdom which the power of hell could not prevail against. Matt.6:19, Lk. 12:32
  4. He gave them His own glory so could be as one with the Father. 17.22, 24
  5. He gave them a compulsion for evangelism. Jn. 17:18, 19 As the context reveals, His sanctification was in an area of commitment to the task for which He had been sent into the world, and in dedication to that purpose of evangelism, He continually gave His life “for their sakes”.  “The ministry of the Holy Spirit is God in operation in men’s lives.” ( pg. 72)

5   DEMONSTRATION

Jn. 13:15 He showed them how to live.

  1. The practice of prayer Lk, 11:11, Matt.6:9-13.
  2. The use of Scripture Abide in His word Jn.15:7.
  3. Training to the task of  evangelism  Jesus did not use fancy classes or tools, only a teacher who practiced with them what He expected them to learn.

6    DELEGATION

Matt.4:19- He assigned them work. He provided them with a vital experience with God and showed them how he worked, before telling them they had to do it.

Their briefing instructions. Lk.9, Matt.10, Mk. 6

  1. Go to the most susceptible audience Matt.10:5,6
  2. Move with the movers Matt.l0:ll, Mk 6:10; Lk.9:41
  3. Expect Hardship.
  4. Remember- They are one with Christ. Matt.10:40-42, John 13:20 “Think of this identity! The disciples were to be the actual representatives of Christ as they went forth. So clear was this association that if someone gave a child a cup of cold water in the name of a disciple, that act of mercy would be rewarded.”
  5. They were sent out 2 by 2. Evangelism set up Christ for his ministry Lk. 10:l

“Christian disciples are sent men-sent out in the same work of world evangelism to which our Lord was sent, and for which He gave His life. Evangelism is not an optional accessory to our life. It is the heartbeat of all that we are called to be and do.”

7 SUPERVISION

Mk. 8:17- He kept check on them-

He gave instruction, assignments and then regrouping to iron out problems.

Jesus used mistakes and failures for learning Mk.9:17-29,Mk.6:30-44, Mk.8:10-19.

Plan of teaching:

  1. Example
  2. Assignment
  3. Constant check-up.

8 REPRODUCTION

Jn.l5:l6-He expected them to reproduce. (Jn.17:20, 21, 23)

“His whole evangelistic strategy, indeed, the fulfillment of his very purpose in coming into the world, dying on the cross, and rising from the grave depended upon the faithfulness of his chosen disciples to this task.”

A barren Christian is a contradiction. A tree is known by its fruit.

“The only hope for the world is for men to go to them with the Gospel of salvation, and having won them to the Savior, not to leave them, but to work with them faithfully, patiently, painstakingly, until they become fruitful Christians savoring the world about them with the Redeemer’s love.”

“The criteria upon which a Church should measure its success is not how much the budget is increased, or how many names are added to the roll, but rather how many Christians are actively winning souls and training them to win the multitudes.”(pg.113, 114)

Conclusion: The Steps Summarized

  1. Begin with a few
  2. Stay together
  3. Give them time
  4. Group meetings
  5. Expect something from them
  6. Keep them going
  7. Help them carry their burdens
  8. Let them carry on
  9. Their personal spiritual relationship with Jesus is priority
  10. The price of victory comes high.